Her comment on "bitches and jerks" putting themselves the priority in their lives... i.e., thinking highly of themselves... yep, that's about spot on. The HEB chick definitely thought highly of herself and she sounded AND acted like it and THAT was very attractive. This is also true for guys, just as it is for girls. This is a mainpart of the "inner game" that's important in attraction: You're a high status and important person worth getting to know.Dauntless wrote: ↑Nov 23, 2017 8:07 pmSo she brings up this idea that seek the jerk for the "Challenge," but I doubt it. I think we're talking more the problem that afflicts people in my situation, who don't realize they're trying to fix their lousy family life by fixing someone who is as unfixable as their family. I'm glad I learned young about 'Victim Rescuer/Persecutor'' and other pitfalls. I think most of what people have to say about such things are more what they feel good about saying and have nothing to do with reality.
But this girl is just attention seeking and doesn't much concern herself whether she gets it wrong or not. It's all about Rule 42 for her, eh? What the hey, Rule 42 is working for me when I get things right with the unpleasant truth, why not let her use it? Though I have to say her talkshow appearance reading the "Creepy" comments that simply weren't so bad and saying mean spirited things about them and playing victim when she makes these videos by that name, I don't think Rule 42 is enough in that case.
Oh, but I do think she's onto something on this PRETENDING to be bad, I've been known to do that.
I will say... though... while that's important... making a decisive ballsy move as I did... really changes things in your favor very fast if you're a guy. So, making ballsy moves vs having a good inner game... I'd think the former can definitely be more decisive and significant.