methods wrote:Not for a second friend... If I were the type that was scared by that kind of threat I would not be making these extreme life changes right now. I quit my job (and my wife quit her job) after we found she was pregnant - *because* - she was pregnant - and because we are not about to raise our child in fear. People have been raising children for 100,000 years without a 401K and stock portfolio.
I have worked every job from toilet cleaner to busboy, waiter to yard maintenance, tutor to government stooge, now unemployed and self employed. The trappings of cash are not what most think they are... we were making $230k per year and we were totally trapped, totally miserable, locked into the system. Its bullshit friend - a mojo sapping soul trap.
Fear being sued?
That is like fearing the cops or the government.
When I go out to protest Police Violence (in the streets of Oakland California) do you think I fear those men with the sticks, guns, and mace?
You cant be free when you live in fear.... and I intend for me and mine to be free.
Apologies for getting so far off-topic, but I guess it is OK because you answered rather extensively. My original statement may have been a bit blunt, and was actually meant to be more rhetoric.
Don't get me wrong, I do not mean one (you) should live in fear. I fully agree that loving parents can raise children into responsible and happy adults without a lot of money. I also have a family (wife and 4 kids) to take care of, and I do not want them or me to live in fear.
However, I do think that different people have different reference points and different expectations of what they want out of life. "Fear for being sued" has a different connotation in the US as compared to CH. And having a job in the US is considered by many to be a much more "temporary" state as compared to job-security in Europe in general, although with the current crisis people here are changing their minds about job-security as well.
I think that we just live different lifes. With my current circumstances it is a complete no-go for me to give up my job and live from the land. As a jobless foreigner in CH, we would just get kicked out of the country. Going back to our "own" country (NL) would give me
a completely trapped feeling. The fact of being able to raise my kids in a safe and relatively free country (CH) gives me freedom from a lot of worries. The freedom to be able to express my opinion, even as a foreigner is something I value highly. And the freedom to escape my 4 kids during my days at work ensures that I don't get mad (just kidding).
And the many rules here in Switzerland can be constricting for many people. For us it is just another challenge, and we are coping quite well. I do expect public transport now (1) to be available and (2) to be on time within 60 seconds from scheduled.
I fully understand that your ideas of freedom and your expectations of what you want out of life are just different from mine, not necessarily better or worse. From what you write and what you have told me in other conversations, I find it quite logical that you do the things you do. I wish you all the best and I do not doubt that your offspring will be perfect in your eyes. At least in the first hours after delivery....
Oh, last but not least, my job gives me the freedom to also buy kits from you
I guess you are not going to argue that...
Just my vision on life...