Wow, I really hit the nail on the head to generate all the desperate posts trying to get his mind off it. Let alone the weak, pathetic efforts such as:
swbluto said:
Awww... just discovered dauntless's problem. Typecasting. I don't really care, I know who I really am inside, and I'm a sexy animal.
Typecasting? You mean like where they keep putting bridles on you and you wonder WHY? (Because you're a horse.) No about of "I can't hear you, nah nah nah nah" will help you forget.
Can't make the video play on my phone, correcting that'll have to wait. But I can correct you on the idea of the successes being longer stories, because there's nothing to tell in the successes. Read 'The Unfair Advantage, ' see how he has far more to say about why a racecar failed than why it succeeded. Oh, the McLaren M16 at Indy is just the greatest story, him explaining why his win was his most embarrassing failure. The guys' nickname went from being Captain Nice to Dark Monodue.
Ah, but I promised you a story and I'll let my thumbs do the talking. Rest assured there'll be nothing about eye contact, after all, since its required and so terribly basic there's no reason to bring it up.
So I was at the local Kroger's chair store, which in California is called Ralph's when this woman decided to start talking to me. No surprise, they do it all the time, hence no need to mention. . .you know. I'm not going to rave about her being so good looking because she wasn't. Presentable, but not the woman that tabloid followers want to be marrying the prince. But I was favorably disposed, just the way she talked seemed so. . .cuddly.
Once, twice, three times she came up to me in public. If I was wondering why I learned the answer when I was approached in public by a couple I know with her in their company. I learned she had the same nickname as my late sister, that in fact the shared the first name.
One thing you finally learn when you're the guy women talk to, there's no point in rushing in to try to date. So often all those around assume she's flirting, then they share my surprise at the ultimate rejection.sooner or later you figure out you gotta wait for something stronger.
But I quickly learned she didn't live so close by, she was only around because she had money trouble and took a second job. That came when I found her waiting tables in a restaurant walking distance from my house. So you figure out the slow times, which will leave her time to stand around and talk to you a little.
I never really thought it was forma bonum to be trying a little too hard where the woman works, her being a captive audience and all, but I thought she was giving the go ahead as she's telling me ". . . .Imbglad you came in, I thought I wasnt going to get a chance to tell you. . . ." I guess her money troubles were doing better, this was her last night waiting tables. But why was it so important for her to tell me if she was just going to tell me "No?"
Doesn't that mean this story wasn't about her?
So she had this coworker while she worked there. One woman talks to you, maybe they all will. This one started asking me about a major news story at the time. One you all marveled at my expertise in word was already traveling downtown of my great wisdom on the subject, as well as my having the best jokes.
So this is the one the tabloids DO want to put her picture on the cover. She bears a close resemblance to a particular actress, so much that I showed pictures on my phone and people thought it was her.
So again with others being so quick to say she's flirting with me and I should move in. Especially as she involves me in her problems with the unwanted attention of other men. (Now there's a situation that'll make you hesitate, right?) I suppose I could read something into her inquiries into what sort of car I drive, or that I actually OWN a house. (Oh, articles in 'Vanity Fair' are for women who already decided to care about those things, NOT to teach women that they should focus on that.) It probably meant something that she found was to introduce me to her no longer married mother and father, whom I'd find around town and they'd be surprisingly familiar with me.
Oh, but she stopped talking to me. The wall went up. When she can't avoid me there's this tone when she speaks. When a woman rejects you they expect you to act like every thing is okay as they cut out your heart with a dull blade and cast it into a bottomless pit of despair. But just try even once to not fall all over one of them when that's what she wanted you to do and watch her go all North Korean dictator with nuclear weapons on you.
Its not that she wasn't good enough. When I was in college I probably would have gotten carried away over how good looking she was. I might prefer someone a little more level headed, maybe even educated But she definitely would have among the nicest of my girlfriends and I suppose she could have been worth playing Svengali over.
I'll just go ahead and make the point in case you can't figure it out: I know what I want, to the point the first woman seemed far more my type. I'd think anyone who had ever had a successful relationship would see the difference in the conversations with the two.
I'll just add I don't think upset with me for not broaching a subject she never broached either. Again, perfectly alright for women to think they should be able to talk to a man without him assuming she means anything by it. But just let the man let it pass when she DOES mean it. . . .
Who knows, that might have made all the difference in the world. I mean have you ever asked the girl out and when she demurrs you say 'That's okay, its not like I REALLY wanted to. . . ?" Oh, wait, there's some terribly rude people around here who'd make a POINT of doing that. But really, why be seeing someone you're not so anxious to see? I mean here's possibly her one chance to prove she's not so superphysical after all when she talks me into it.
Ah well, obviously she thinks that would be more trouble than its worth. As John F. Kennedy said about going to the moon; "We do these things not because they are easy, but because they are hard." Great double entendre there on men chasing women, but indeed woman mostly stop at easy.
Anyway, so, ah, made any good eye contact lately?