While it would help to know the brand of the motor, the answer is better quality spokes.
The spokes you get on almost all hub motors are going to be the overly thick extra soft chinese spokes that give most of us nightmares when we run at high power or heavy weight. The average Adult male weight in china is 145lbs. In America its 191lbs (taken from google search) So we are harder on the spokes than they were designed for.
Breaking at the elbow is a sign that the spokes have been too lose. That can happen when spokes are too thick, and/or too soft so that they don't spring back propperly after taking tension. Spokes are ment to share the load, and when some are lose, they others have to take on an extra load and eventualy fail. With the soft chinese spokes, it becomes difficult to keep the spokes tight all the time.
Use a quality 14 guage or double butted 13/14 gauge spoke from DTswiss, Phil Wood, or Sapim. Your wheel may be using 12 or 13 gauge spokes now, but the 14 gauge, while thinner, will be stronger and better able to handle the stresses on it.