For my motorcycle, I was thinking of piggybacking cable on top of the lugs where the 3 phase wires connect to the motor controller. And figuring out some sort of manual switch that would short all 3 wires. With all 3 shorted, on a motor this big, it would take a lot to get the motor to move. Not a full brake, enough force would still be able to move the wheel, but it would probably at least keep it in position (which is what you said you were looking for), and it shouldn't use any power.
It won't use any power, but it doesn't actually lock the rotor completely--it just makes it harder to spin--the slower you try to turn it, the easier it is to actually do so, and it *will* still move if the forces are great enough (determined by motor characteristics, see below). .
If the prop has to be locked in a specific stowed position for a reason (like retracting it into a fairing) this method also won't work because it doesn't have a specific preference for where the shaft stops.
But as you've noted, since you're shorting all the controller's FETs this way, then if you turn the controller on while it's shorted, it could just blow up. (it probably will blow up if you actually try to use it while shorted). So you'd need to have an interlock to turn the controller off *before* the short is created, and turn it on only *after* the short is removed.
It won't hurt the motor itself to do this (as long as you aren't actually spinning it enough to generate high currents).
The other issue is that it depends on the physical motor design for how well it can resist the turning. The longer the radius of the moment arm of the motor itself (generally larger diameter rotor) and/or the greater the width of the magnet/stator interface (generally wider motor), the higher the torque forces required to spin it against the shorted fields at zero RPM.
I'm not certain, but I think that a motor with a higher kV will create a voltage at a lower RPM to begin resisting it's movement, so a "high-speed" wind of the same-otherwise motor might resist sooner than a "high torque" wind...but the HT wind might resist turning better once it does start to do so. Haven't tested this.