Where do I meet my future ebike nerd wife?

I'm not opening another dating app in my life.

Good luck brother you want someone to roll your life or you get one that subsider to be in there's no in between. I thought you would have liked me to do that !!! ??(
Enough with that what part of the country you live I think you're up by San Francisco ?

Really hard to find, my dude. Here's why:

- Bicycling is a risky activity and ebiking more so, most women are gonna be risk adverse, and this makes the pool of potential mates quite small in our first pass filter.

- Most women, over time and commitment depth, will attempt to make their man into a 'let me ask my wife & see if she'll let me' kinda guy. This is seen most strongly in liberals but also a subsection of conservatives. One with a libertarian attitude is the least likely to try to pull this.

- most nerds are men, so you might have to negotiate on that one. The bell curves are not in your favor.



- Your best bet is to convert one from a motorcycle/jetski/skydiving/other insane activity chick into an ebike chick. Look for signs of motorsports enjoyment up front to increase your chances.

- It's very true that opposites attract; a male who enjoys risky activities and a susie homemaker will have strong chemistry/synergy. Maybe too much similarity is not what you're looking for.

Personally i think just tolerating my hobby is good enough; there's plenty of other people out there who i can ride with

EBike nerd you find here, guaranteed. Not sure about the wife part. But you're 2/3 there

hilllzofvalp said:

I'm not opening another dating app in my life.

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Ride a lot. Do group rides. That's where they are.

2 weeks of US civilisation left on the clock according to trumpavision news and this guy is still optimistic,
Id like to buy you a pint @hilllzofvalp

Don't require your mate to be interested in your things. Nothing good can come of it. You only have to be interested in each other.

I've got my bikes. What more could I want!
But, seriously, take some begining partner dance lessons. Most dancing women ride bikes.

Or cooking classes...
Or wine appreciation...
Or rope. There's plenty of bunnies out there.

I've had a fine MTB somewhat nerdy one for a long time, but she refuses to go "e"; accordingly I don't ride "e" much either.

Chalo said:

Don't require your mate to be interested in your things. Nothing good can come of it. You only have to be interested in each other.

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I really agree with this. This is a common mistake as relationships become more about companionship and less about reproduction.

Where you need sameness:
- Moral sense, but not necessarily specifics of religion or lack thereof
- Communication style
- Approval of each other's direction they wish to follow in life
- Economic sense
- Kinks
- Humor style
- Close alignment in the 5 love languages:


What you don't want too much sameness:
- Hobbies/interests
- Cognitive style
- Abilities
- Profession

.. the below items can & should be fulfilled with friends. One person shouldn't be your everything.

What i find in successful long term relationships of other people, and in my own relationship, with great consistency, is sameness in key areas and oppositeness in all the rest.
The differences are what keep things interesting long term.

Try library in Holland.

Ok kids.... put away the toys and go outside and play.

Chalo said:

Don't require your mate to be interested in your things. Nothing good can come of it. You only have to be interested in each other.

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Agreed. My wife doesn't care about bicycles one bit. The key for me is that she's has no problem with me cycling. All that said, I have observed that there seem to be some women who lean heavily left, prefer organic foods and eschew automobiles. They may be attracted to things like electric cargo bikes for the "green" aspect and not because they particularly love cycling.

Beware that if you may find that a mate that also like ebikes she not be the great find that you think. It's a fairly broad category and the bits about ebiking that she finds attractive may not be what you find attractive. You could find her dragging you away from the bits you love most. Maybe you love ripping up moutainsides on something close to an emotorcycle while she finds a ride on her electrified bakfiet to pick up some groceries to be what's super cool about ebikes. A disinterested mate, OTOH, may just leave you alone with your ebiking activities and you can pursue them as you please. And that, IMO, is the key. You want a mate that is fine with you pretty much as the person who you are and who isn't looking the change you. Of course, you should extend similar respect and freedom towards her. There's plenty in life to share other than ebikes.

It took me ten years and a pandemic to teach my wife how to ride a bike. Bought her three e-bikes and all what I achieved is that she rides with me few times per year.

It is much easier to teach kids to love cycling. I have three kids and they never say no to a bike ride.

Boy meets girl with bike.
Boy buys bike. Gets girl.
......
Boy/girl get old.
Ebikes for both,

See I don't want a relationship where I watch my partner suffer unknowingly watching screens all day and coming home to be annoyed that I'm working on some e-projects. If there was a way to increase the odds that I'm doing e-projects with my wife for the rest of my life, I think that would be worth waiting for. I hate 99% of things on the internet and cell phones. Luckily I just lost my cell phone and only use my apple watch with cellular. It's great. It forced me back on endlesss sphere after 10 years.. this is good. Back to 2014 when no one hardly was glued to their god damn stupid ass pointless brainwashing device. I don't want to marry someone who likes regular brainwashing either.



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Boy meets girl with a bike.
Boy’s on foot, sweating bullets, trying to play it cool, but he’s winded after walking two blocks.
Girl effortlessly glides past him on her sleek bike, like some kind of two-wheeled goddess.
Boy thinks, “If I had a bike, I’d definitely catch her.”
Boy buys a bike.
It’s shiny, it’s fast—he Googled “best beginner bikes” for hours.
But on his first ride, he forgets how to stop, crashes into a mailbox, and the neighbor’s dog barks at him like he’s just committed a felony.
Undeterred, he gets back on the saddle.
After a few wobbles, bruises, and one very close encounter with a bush, he’s starting to look somewhat… competent.
One day, he spots the girl again. This time, he pedals like his life depends on it.
He catches up to her (barely), and blurts out, “Hey, nice bike!”
She laughs, “Yeah, yours too, I guess. You okay from the bush incident?”
Turns out she’d seen the whole thing.
Great.
But hey, somehow, it works.
They start riding together.
He pretends he’s cool with hills (he’s not), she pretends not to notice when he nearly dies on steep climbs.
Fast forward: they’re in love.
They ride bikes everywhere—cute dates, weekend adventures, even a romantic 50-mile ride that leaves him questioning every decision he’s ever made.
But it’s worth it.
Years pass.
Boy and girl are now man and woman (still biking, but with considerably more joint pain).
He’s developed an unhealthy obsession with bike gear; she’s secretly plotting to replace his Lycra with something less tragic.
Then one morning, they both wake up and realize:
“We’re not as spry as we used to be.”
So, they do what any couple in denial about aging would do: they buy e-bikes.
Suddenly, it’s like they’re 25 again—except now with motorized help and way more time spent arguing over which bike has the better battery life.
They zip around town, passing cyclists half their age and feeling smug about it.
They may be older, but they’re still chasing each other.
Just with a little more... electrical assistance.
And fewer bushes.

I totally agree with others. You don't need a wife who will ride a bike. You need a wife who will love you and accept you for who you are.

2old said:

I've had a fine MTB somewhat nerdy one for a long time, but she refuses to go "e"; accordingly I don't ride "e" much either.

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any single mtb friends of your mtb somewhat nerdy strain?

I don't think women love and accept men like me. I'm very stubborn and nonconforming, so as many common interests will only help..

hilllzofvalp said:

I don't think women love and accept men like me. I'm very stubborn and nonconforming, so as many common interests will only help..

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You are on a spectrum, aren't you? Don't make lists. Don't make assumptions. Life will find way... or not. Just accept it.

When I was young, I looked around. Everybody was married and miserable or divorced. It was clear to me I will be single, but here I am. Together with my wife for over 20 years. Married for over 15.
I love cycling. My wife loves to knit.
I have a son for hardcore off road and long cross country rides.
I have two daughters for relaxing scenic rides. I take my camping chair. I sit and read a book in a shade while girls do what girls do. They throw rocks to the river, collect sticks, chase butterflies or count sheep.



All that matters is for you and your wife to be happy together.

I agree with all these statements. I won't make any lists or assumptions. I imagine your values are fairly well aligned with your wife.. Maybe I should create a little storage compartment for sticks and rocks to scatter as I ride.

You could attend women's bicycle races and try to meet competitors.
You could join a co-ed bicycle club and scope out the women in it.
You could go to all the bike shops around you and see if there is a women working in them.
You could become a bicycle repair man specializing in women's road racing bikes.
You could advertise as a man who wants a women who rides e-bikes.
You could go "gay" as more men seem to ride e-bikes then women. (Not my personal choice but, to each his own.)

hilllzofvalp said:

I don't think women love and accept men like me. I'm very stubborn and nonconforming, so as many common interests will only help..

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Hurts my soul to read that.

That's never been a problem for me. Being disagreeable and rebellious are both masculine traits which women are attracted to. You flip this supposed negative into a positive by owning it and applying it. You should also learn when NOT to be disagreeable. But don't apologize for who you are, and never think of yourself as lower than others for being as such.

The below introverted stubborn nonconformists never had a problem getting a date. We know of these men because they decided to be weird in a bold way.

BTW you don't have to be famous level bold to attract people... but conviction and confidence is everything.
If that's not something you have - anyone can develop it, no matter how bad their family or society screwed them up.