still not clear on the specs for the relay you have selected.
Crystalyte made motors that had a tapped WYE winding. i used ONE of these relays:
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to switch between the taps on the windings. the motor was a front wheel Crystalyte 408/4012 (4012 tapped at 408 for dual speed) on a 48V 30A system. yes i know that the contacts are only rated for 15A but they survived years of pretty much daily use on my trike.
relay contacts can carry much higher currents once contact is made. the rateings are also for pretty much continuous use. they can usually handle higher currents for a fewer number of switchovers.
on a different bike i used 3 of the regular Bosch automotive 40/60A relays. they also worked fine. i found that what fails is the contact if anything. the coils are pretty reliable. and the only contact that failed was one on a super cheap relay i bought on eBay. i donated the rest of that box of relays to the local high school to use in their shop classes. that darn "cheap gene" is gonna kill me one day.
that being said, i was also not pushing 100V at a gazillion amps through the darn things. i was using them sanely on a daily driver. i suspec they will also work on a regular system. i doubt if they will work wellor long on an "Insane-a-cycle". for those guys you better start looking on ebay for some aircraft grade sealed contact, inert gas filled contactors (like the ones DoctorBass has) at a reasonable price.
SSR's won't be much help either. to pass continous amounts of power they would have to be mounted to a heatsink. just like any high power semiconductor. typically for 40A they would need to dissipate 50W and they would be running at 105C. that is hotter than boiling water. that would be pretty hot to the touch. and that would be on a large heatsink.
just where would you mount 3 of these?
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