I'm afraid I don't know enough about industrial motors to help pick one out of the thousands (more, really) out there.
Regarding the server fan types, I have a pair of Papst typ 6448 / 2hht fans that have lasted for years so far, and who knows how long they were used before I got them out of some rackmount something-or-other from a junkyard (just had to clean the dirt off of them).
They are spec'd to run off 46.5-49.5vdc, which has been handy since getting into ebikes, since they'll run off an ebike pack ok. (I've actually run one of htem for hours at a time off a 14s pack that was around 56v when I started, and it didn't blow up or overheat, etc, during a power failure when I had to have a fan to keep cool. Still using that fan even now, powered off a 36vdc wallwart to help a window AC unit move more air....).
They have a "program" wire (which is probably a voltage input to tell it how fast to spin, but I've just tied it to ground to run at full speed; I never looked up the specs to check on it), and a tach output wire (whcih I don't use).
Unfortunately it is kinda loud...but it moves a hell of a lot of air. It's quieter without the cage around it, but not quiet enough if you need a "silent" desk fan. It might be better if using the "program" line to change it's speed to something slower. (it *is* a lot quieter at the 36v...)
I suspect the motor itself could be used to drive a larger diameter fan blade (that is very well balanced) at the slower speed without nearly the same noise.
The main problem I find with most "desk fan" (or other household fans) is that they don't use bearings in their motors. They use bushings.
If you were to take the bushings out and replace them with sealed bearings (to keep dust out) and ensure they were properly and regularly lubricated as needed, the household types would last a lot longer (however long the bearings are designed for).
I have a box fan that's reaching the point of bushing failure, that I am likely to see what bearings I have laying around out of something else that will fit in there.....