To end this thread, I finally bought these
https://www.ebay.com/itm/143242110477?mkcid=16&mkevt=1&mkrid=711-127632-2357-0&ssspo=mOXbSXW7S1y&sssrc=2349624&ssuid=XkT10NRIQIe&var=&widget_ver=artemis&media=COPY
Because they can pretty much accept any motorcycle mirror and they have 10 mm. Adapters. They are quite flimsy but I didn't find a steel version. So I bought the cheapest China I could.
I actually had these snap when my 120lb bike fell on the mirror ( dropped). But whatever I can buy these and keep using my current mirrors for now.
I wound up finding a mirror set for $30 that had a 10 inch stem but for now I can recycle what I have. I'm cutting into my emergency funds buying bicycle parts and tools at this point. Just gotta suffer for now I suppose