fets are in parallel, but you can't actually get the rated current out of them, for a number of reasons. There's a bunch of discussions over the years that probably explain better than me, but basically:
the wire bond in the fet is one limit--it's not actually capable of as much current as the die is spec'd for, and the spec sheet may rate based on the die and not what the package itself can actually do.
another limit is temperature. the current you can push thru a fet decreases with temperature, and you can only get so much heat out of one so fast. under perfect lab conditions a fet can take more current than it really can in the real world conditions inside a poorly designed controller like most generics.
another limit is even distribution of current. the fets aaren't exactly the same, so current doesn't flow evenly thru them, and some take more than others. if you run the system at the limit of what one fet, times however many there are in one half of a phase bridge, and one fet takes more than it's share, then that fet will overheat faster and be less capable but still draw more and heat more and runaway until it blows up.
another limit is gate drive--if it's not turned on and off correctly, a fet won't be low resistance and current heats it up faster. gate drive in these controlelrs is basic, and not ideally designed. even an ideal design is still not perfect in realtiy,
also, the current flow thru the phases is different than that in the battery, because of pwm / etc.
regarding the meter, i'd recommend a wattmeter with external shunt (like the cycle analyst uses), so you can monitor current along with power usage, voltage, wh, ah, etc. useful for troubleshooting and experimentation.
