liveforphysics said:
60/40 solder is fine solder.
Your goal is to get the copper conducting elements in your joint as close as physically possible to each other before soldering.
Yes, good point. Plus there is a whole art to soldering. Ideally, the wire would have a mechanical joint such as a crimp, dog-leg through a hole, a twist, or some inter-wire brading. The solder would then secure and enhance electrical conductivity of that mechanical joint.
Several considerations:
What is your wire size and is it compatible with the amps you want to run and the connector you're using. Too small wire will obviously heat up no matter how good the solder joint. But too big of wire might not fit properly in the connector and can create a high resistance joint.
Is the wire and connector clean, non-oxidized before soldering? Often solder won't 'wet out' on oxidized copper. Copper should be bright and clean before the process is attempted.
Are you using plenty of flux? For tiny electronics joints, 'flux core' solder is often enough. But for large wire joints, you should ideally paint the joint with flux before soldering. This keeps the copper from oxidizing while heating which can then create issues mentioned above. Flux also has some cleaning effect in case the copper wasn't spotless to begin with - though don't count on it blasting off heavy oxidation.
Is your solder iron big enough to heat the whole joint? Ideally, your solder would flow like water through the strands of copper wire and fully 'wet' the joint. Cooling into a smooth/shiny surface. If you are getting a 'pasty' or 'grainy' surface, or can only melt small blobs of solder at a time, then your iron doesn't have enough capacity. If doing large joints, a small torch can come in handy for extra heat - but then flux is critical to prevent oxidation.
What size (diameter) solder are you using? If you have relatively small diameter solder (for electronics work), but trying to solder a large joint, sometimes you can't feed the small stuff in fast enough. Possibly use larger diameter solder, or take some of the small stuff and fold it double/triple/quadruple/[or more] over itself, then twist it together to form one large 'stick' of solder.
Are you letting the joint cool completely undisturbed? Large joints/connectors can take some time (minutes) to cool down. If you bump or pull on the wire before then, you can make a pasty / high resistance joint.
Probably a dozen more things, but hopefully some things to consider.