Well it's good for her to know that you're researching diligently in order to keep her from an unexpected trip to the ER
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In any case, a belated welcome to the forum!
I just looked back at my first post on this forum, and even after researching ebikes for a year and looking at tons of YouTube videos, I probably tripled my knowledge by carefully reading the responses to that first post. And, it was the typical question that I see being asked as the first post of maybe half the newbies LOL. Here's what I've learned. The members of this forum come from all walks of life and professions. Food deliverers, car mechanics, physics professors; the breadth of knowledge is vast as is the depth. You will find that certain members have a great deal of knowledge and hands on experience in certain areas, while others have an amazing breadth of general knowledge, but even that has a lot of depth. But, in the end, it's a community of people, and personalities that you may get to know over time; and first impressions aren't always accurate.
When it comes to bicycle knowledge, I'd argue that Chalo likely has the greatest knowledge and experience out of the current active members. Other members have knowledge in specific technical areas as mentioned, and when I see any of their posts, I read them carefully looking for things I don't know to build up my own knowledge base. And the experience is real world, so when someone provides cautions about battery fires, it's even more impactful when delivered by someone whose house burnt down, or has first hand knowledge.
I see the most passion and tough love delivered around topics related to safety, and while the delivery may be off putting, the messages are absolutely necessary. If an expert hasn't chimed in, then I will do my best to deliver to tough message just so I can have a clear conscious in case something goes wrong. If you stick around the forum long enough, you may find yourself doing the same.
So, I would caution you against using the ignore button based on first impressions, or you'll likely miss out on a lot of good information. Besides, once you get to know the folks and the hot button topics, then you can just sit back, get out the popcorn, and watch when those topics come up.