Update:
Finally pressed in the headset, it took a few tries since it was my first time pressing bearings. I couldn't get the bearing to go in straight by pressing it in using a threaded rod, nuts, and wrenches, so I got it started that way and the local makerspace expert pressed it in the rest of the way with a hammer and two blocks of wood. The steerer tube is just barely long enough for the external cup headset and the handlebar stem.
The hub motor came, single speed freewheel and extra wide rim as requested. It even came with a 16T freewheel, so that can get me started when I eventually get a TSBB. I ordered satorade from Grin, so I'll have to install that in the hub motor. I tried to uninstall it like
these instructions show, but even after a couple vigorous shakes it wasn't separating. I didn't want to go absolutely crazy shaking it without being absolutely certain that that's the way to do it, so I'll double check and try again later.
Preview of what the rear end will look like. The torque arm model fits the disc brake and the axle, I'll probably want to lower the bottom fastener hole by 5-10mm so that way the axle easily clears.
My idea for the next version before I laser cut or mill anything. Red would be added onto the torque arm, with 3 holes to fasten it to a bar of steel (blue). The steel bar would then be attached to the frame with U bolts. Hopefully this would be more than enough for my use case.
Small issue with the wheel, it's closer to the passenger side than the driver side. Is this something that a local bike shop could re-true, or would I need to re-lace the whole wheel?

Silver lining: the axle is easily long enough for 10mm torque arms on both sides and axle nuts. Between axle nuts, clamping torque arms, and u bolts attaching torque arm extensions to the frame, I really hope this axle has absolutely 0 play.
In the mail: 52-90V to 48V 2A stepdown converter (for CA3 and headlights), Fox RP23 rebuild kit, Satiator kit, left ebrake lever, battery bag, XT90S connectors, bike seat.
Still need to order: Kenda Kraze 26x3" rear tire, 26x3" tube, red and black 8AWG wire (if not at makerspace), light kit.
Still need to make: final torque arm designs, torque arms, battery bag bracket, controller mounting brackets.