ok, spend some hours in trying around and as always I want to share my results here. First of all, I tried all possible combinations with the HAL sensor and the angles, which ended up in a slightly better result for the FLUX, however I was able to determine the cause of the runaway: if the angle and the configuration of the HAL sensors is in an unlucky constellation, the attempt of the controller to actively slow down the motor backfires and it actually accelerates it. So at least the secret of that miracle was unveiled. However, I still struggle with the way too high flux current, which is still around 500, although I am already at 0! Here is my setup with explanations:

Not much to say here, except it is an EM-50 CAN. The values I use on all my controllers, so nothing that hasn't been approved

This one might need more explanation. First of all, HDC is on, or the gears wouldn't work. Then we cut out sports mode for now, and additionally I need to mention that I use gear 1 and gear 2 only. This is the reason, why gear 1 is configured to 50% and gear 2 to 100%. However the right fields behave slightly different than on my other controllers. Usually the right field of low (1st gear) is the overall current in percent of what the controller is capable of (not to mess up with busbar current from page1!) for all gears except sport. However, this field has no function on this controller but the right field of mid (2nd gear) is setting the current in % of the maximum capable of the controller before flux kicks in. Valid for all gears except sports mode. That's new to me. The 3rd field is still blurry, but exceeds the maximum speed of the motor. I have set it to 75% (=1360RPM), because if I get the motor to 1380RPM, it starts to get unstable. The flux weakening values below I had never understood and returned to their default, after playing around and no effect.

This page kept me busy today - very busy... I tried all 48 combinations of exchange hal wire, exchange phase wire and -120°, -60°, 60° and 120°. In the end I stick with this combo and it runs fine. However:

I don't get the flux current down. As you can see, I am already at 0, but it is still above 500 (flickers between 450 and 600). Anyone any idea where I screwed up?
Edit: there is a new manual online at http://www.siaecosys.com/upfile/202103/2021031154133781.pdf. There is way much more information in there than previously, I am currently fighting my way through the horrible translations